Do women truly prefer jerks — men who treat them rudely, who act like they could take ‘em or leave ‘em, or who actually do take them…then leave them? Just as the toughest jock would have made a great protector in the ancient past—where all human mating psychology comes from—women today are drawn to whoever gets them and their kids/genes to survive. They aren’t better employees, but they have no hesitations about putting themselves or their interests forward. The Panties There’s an industry directed at teaching men to be jerks—to alternately fake long-term interest, feign indifference, and/or pretend they’ve got more money (or degrees, cars, houses) than they really do.If it weren’t for the stories and letters, I’d have to wonder; I myself prefer good, true, honest, loving, kind, faithful men—most especially the nice guy I married. And yet we all know women who can’t seem to get excited about anyone but a jerk. There’s probably something to this; in studies, some women admit that when they have casual sex, they maintain high standards for a guy’s high resources. The Money The reason girls love status is the same one women do: In study after study, it’s associated with a man’s ability to provide and protect. Across a series of studies, the “jerk perk” is worth about $10k a year on average, or 18% more than more agreeable male peers. And jocks are not always known for throwing their weight around in the kindest possible ways. In high school, status comes from having the quickest wit or the most athletic prowess, or both. The funniest guy in high school is typically hilarious at others’ expense. If you want to test your own personality traits, you can look here before continuing. Abundant science plus your own experience back this up: Girls dig status. On personality inventories, jerks aren’t sociopaths — they’re just really disagreeable, per scientific studies on personality.A cocky attitude may in itself tell a woman a guy has the goods, and lying can cover the rest. Jerks probably do get women more easily in casual sex scenarios.
Factually, their lives and loves are crappier—not happier.And studies show that very few men want to play the field all their lives; men and women alike want lasting, true love.But jerks often lack what it takes to sustain that.In numerous studies, jerks are, by their own admission, less relationship-oriented, friendly, forgiving, trusting, helpful, warm, caring, cooperative, and sympathetic than non-jerks—precisely the opposite of the kind, loving, loyal heart women in 37 cultures and countries say they absolutely require in a mate.